Category Archives: Dear Atticus

Dear Atticus, that kick 4

Dear Atticus, At work, I am able to go with the flow fairly well, but the truth is that I need some time to absorb change. I didn’t feel deeply connected to you right away, and I struggled with that. At the time, I thought there was something wrong with me, but it is easier […]

Dear Atticus, your wild and precious life 5

“The Summer Day” by Mary Oliver Who made the world? Who made the swan, and the black bear? Who made the grasshopper? This grasshopper, I mean- the one who has flung herself out of the grass, the one who is eating sugar out of my hand, who is moving her jaws back and forth instead […]

Dear Atticus, on making memories 0

Dear Atticus, We are at the beach this weekend. This house is one of my favorite places, and I was excited to bring you here over the summer. You decided to celebrate our week of vacation by refusing to sleep. We thought you were teething, but your teeth didn’t appear for a couple more months. […]

Dear Atticus, your school 0

Dear Atticus, I had a negative view of daycare. I felt sorry for kids who had to go there rather than staying home with their moms, like I got to do. I don’t know what I thought happened there, but it was a bad old place. I was, of course, totally wrong. Your school is […]

Dear Atticus, on doing difficult things 0

Dear Atticus, It is impossible to avoid the unhelpful advice that people will give you throughout your life. There were a lot of unhelpful things said to me as I was pregnant and as we were getting to know you, but one in particular sticks out to me. People would ask me when I was […]

Dear Atticus, on choosing differently 6

Dear Atticus, I said the other day that I have closely guarded your bedtime since you were about 6 weeks old. In the spring and early summer, this meant that we did not do much of anything at all in the evenings. This was okay with me because it was my choice. I went back […]

Dear Atticus, on nostalgia 1

Dear Atticus, I personally thought the newborn stage was for the birds. I can look back now and see why people treasure it: you were so tiny and needed so much help, and things are already so different. You have ideas about how things should be, and you make yourself known. Your dad and I […]

Dear Atticus, on having choices 11

Dear Atticus, One of the difficult choices I made this year was to continue breastfeeding you once I went back to work in August. My original goal was to try to get to August, and at that point I decided to try to finish out the whole year. I have been vocally skeptic about the […]

Dear Atticus, on sleep 6

Dear Atticus, I loved swaddling you. I loved how cozy you looked, and how it helped you sleep. I loved having you in bed with us swaddled, safely tucked between me and your dad. But swaddling is not forever, as much as I kind of wanted to swaddle you until college. (At which time we […]

Dear Atticus, on sentimentality 5

Dear Atticus, Everyone who knows us would agree that your dad is the sentimental one in our relationship. I feel deeply, but you will probably never hear me going on about those deep levels of feeling. I am not good at gushing. A lot of women post on Facebook how much they love their husbands […]

Dear Atticus, new beginnings 5

Dear Atticus, There are a lot of things I want to tell you about the past year. But I thought I should start with the story of your arrival. A lot of people post their birth stories on their blogs, but I was not sure I was comfortable with the state of my cervix being […]

Dear Atticus, on Grammy 11

I know I said that I was going to have my mom write to Atticus instead of me telling Atticus about her, but I found I had a few things to say after all. Dear Atticus, I have been paying attention over the past 10 months, and I have come to believe that we are […]

Dear Atticus, a letter from Grammy 8

Today is my mom’s birthday. Instead of me writing about her, I asked her to write her own letter to Atticus. I don’t know how people have babies without family close by. Mike has often commented that we need a third person to help us. Though she lives 45 minutes away, Mom has been that […]

Dear Atticus, the myth of motherhood 16

Dear Atticus, It is not bold, in these days of reality television and online confessionals, to express discontent with motherhood. And yet, if one is to dare to say that she does not enjoy every single minute of motherhood, she is likely to be disagreed with violently by people who claim otherwise. The things I […]

letter in my pocket. 9

When I was a kid, we didn’t live very close to my grandma. So she would write to me. She has the spiritual gift of card-sending, and she regularly sent cards that talked about how the calves were doing and the weather they were having and what was growing in the garden. I still have […]

all that’s in store for you. 18

Mike and I don’t exchange presents on Christmas or Valentine’s Day or our anniversary. We save presents solely for birthdays, and we try to make them really special. Sometime during the past nine months, I decided that I should also get a present on Atticus’s birthday. Not just this year, but every year. For doing […]

Dear Atticus, here is the world 5

Old Globe by ToastyKen, shared under a Creative Commons license. Dear Atticus, Today is the last day of November, so . . . we did it! Except for the part where we still have labor and delivery and sleepless nights and the terrible twos and starting school and soccer games and piano lessons and eye […]

Dear Atticus, the Christmas decorations 6

For National Blog Posting Month, I wrote a letter every day to my unborn son, Atticus. He’s due just after Christmas, so I have been thinking about him a lot. Thanks for stopping by to see my Christmas decorations! Dear Atticus, In this house, we really like holidays. From Abraham Lincoln’s birthday to the 4th […]

Dear Atticus, the power of stories 2

Dear Atticus, For as long as I can remember, I have been fascinated with words. They come together to tell a story, they play and bounce off one another in poetry and in song. When the tone and the pacing and the detail are just right, something magical happens. I have been reading since I […]

Dear Atticus, Advent this year 8

That is our favorite Advent book, and we highly recommend it. The Christmas Mystery by Jostein Gaarder. Dear Atticus, Tomorrow is the first Sunday of Advent, the time the church uses to prepare for the Christmas holiday. For the next few weeks, we will sing songs like “Come, Thou Long Expected Jesus” and “O Come, […]