Comments on: I am haunted by my love for comparison.

By: Kari

Kari — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 23:11:38 +0000

I randomly put the song in my playlist for the spring, and it came up the other day when I was on a walk. Which is why it was on my mind.

By: brandi

brandi — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 22:50:23 +0000

I caved and looked up the song. I had a sneaking suspicion it was going to be Waterdeep but for some reason my brain was stuck on Sarah Masen. Now I need to find my copy of Sink or Swim.

By: Kari

Kari — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 12:58:49 +0000

Oooh, so what is it?

By: CJ

CJ — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 12:15:45 +0000

In high school, I was overcommited to EVERYTHING. In college, I was overcommited to my campus ministry. (I didn’t know that was your story, too.) And when I decided not to go on staff with that ministry, I felt like my relationships with people changed significantly. Part of that may have been my own insecurity–in fact, I’m pretty sure it was. But all of that has haunted me as an adult.

I too am seeking that balance. I want to be involved with things I care about, but I don’t want to agree to participate in something just to please someone else. I’m often too worried to take the steps toward something I do care about, because I’m afraid I’ll jump in with both feet and lose my sense of self and freedom in the process. I’ve picked one cause that I want to get involved with (one you would probably appreciate, actually) and I’m pretty excited to see what’s ahead.

By: Kari

Kari — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 02:51:10 +0000

You do know the song. If that helps.

By: brandi

brandi — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 02:44:31 +0000

OK, first of all, I know I know the song your title comes from, but I can’t place it and I refuse to google and don’t tell me because it will come to me, I just know it.

I think I am most afraid of not living up to what I think people think I should be. Not even my own ideas or desires, but this concept I think other people have. And I am afraid that I am disappointing them right and left, even though in reality I know that they probably give me way less thought than I think they do.

By: GFMorris.com » Four Good Days in a Row

GFMorris.com » Four Good Days in a Row — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 02:39:09 +0000

[...] I’ve also been thinking about what I was doing wrong, because hell, it’s not all the drugs, man. To argue that my choices have no effect on my mood is just such utter bullshit, and turns meds into the crutch that so many people are afraid they’ll be. I strongly suspect that one of my friends who is struggling with depression right now fears meds because of the crutch concept. I want to tell you that they are not a crutch but a restorative—and you need that to keep the car on the road, but at the end of the day, you still have to drive, dammit. Kari sparked the thoughts that I’d had going to mind in writing about her issues with overcomm…. [...]

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GFMorris.com » links for 2009-06-22 — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 02:31:05 +0000

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By: Geof F. Morris

Geof F. Morris — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 02:27:18 +0000

I struggle with overcommitment, to the point that I reacted by undercommitting to anything that wasn’t work and, as a result, losing my sense of self in the process. It was a terrible process, one I wouldn’t wish on anyone, other than the nuggets of wisdom I’m gleaning from it. You know, good judgment comes from experience, but experience from bad judgment, etc. Phew. I should have some killer judgment.

By: Carol

Carol — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 22:46:06 +0000

I even took you to water babies at the Y when you were about a year old so you wouldn’t be afraid of the water, but your mother’s fear of the water probably rubbed off, and you didn’t do so well. I had trouble blowing in your face and dunking you. You would give me that look that seemed to say, “Mommy, what are you doing to me???”