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GFMorris.com » links for 2008-11-05 — Thu, 06 Nov 2008 02:30:49 +0000

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By: Geof F. Morris

Geof F. Morris — Wed, 05 Nov 2008 16:37:59 +0000

For whatever reason, I didn’t get around to reading this until today.

But I find that your best audience, Kari, is you. You’re writing what you want to write about. You’re sharing your passions. It is a reflection of yourself—perfect or imperfect—and those of us who enjoy seeing that reflection gain from it.

It’ll never be perfect, and it’ll never be exactly what we [or maybe even you!] expect, but it’ll usually be what you need and often be very good. I think that’s enough.

By: Rachel

Rachel — Fri, 31 Oct 2008 22:43:44 +0000

Email away…it would be great to meet someone new!

By: Jayne

Jayne — Fri, 31 Oct 2008 14:50:02 +0000

And, Kari, your blog is wonderfully written and I have never found it to be self absorbed or indulgent.

By: Jayne

Jayne — Fri, 31 Oct 2008 14:48:27 +0000

From my perch at the higher end of life ( in years if not wisdom) I wonder why it seems that so often women compete, even in the very act of trying to form solidarity. Women have needed, and continue to need to band together in order to remind the rest of the world that laws and cultural mores should not penalize us for our female-ness. At the same time we tend to decide that our own brand of how-to-live-life-as-woman, is way better than any other brands. As a stay at home mom for 20 years, I grew more than tired of the ridiculous phrase ” oh, I could never stand to just stay home all day with children”. Then when it became necessary to become the breadwinner for my large family, I grew equally as tired of hearing “I could never leave my children to go to work,just to have more toys.” No men ever said ether of these things to me, just women.
I have read Gift from the Sea about 20 million times since I first read it at 16, and Anne Lindbergh’s timeless way of talking about women and their universal need – hers, including but not limited to children- and others who may not have them. I’ve never found a book that better describes the common female in the universe. Physical mothers or not, biologically and anthropologically, we are the mother figures and that carries some universal connections. When or if we actually reproduce is just another of countless versions of being a woman.
Society has suffered for the loss of women being the backbone of compassionate service to community, in part because of our competition with each other for a value measured in dollars and recognition. If we could be kind and generous to each other in our choices, wouldn’t our families (in any version) communities and we as a sex, all win a tremendous benefit?

By: Kari

Kari — Thu, 30 Oct 2008 14:49:09 +0000

Pink just put out her “divorce album,” right? I think I read that in Entertainment Weekly. (We are so classy with where we get our information.)

I’m not trying to force some kind of dichotomy between mommy bloggers and the rest of us. I just think that there is a large group of moms on the internet and I wonder if I have anything to offer to people whose interests and focus are so different than mine. (Specifically, there was something that I observed recently that made me feel as if certain groups of moms think my life has no value or meaning or interest. It kind of hurt my feelings.)

By: emily

emily — Wed, 29 Oct 2008 22:31:22 +0000

I read a quote in People magazine that Pink said her happiness does nothing for her, but her heartbreak is inspiring. Something like that. And you know, it’s Pink so there’s that.

I feel this way a lot. Obviously, I am a mom…but I don’t think of myself as a mommy blogger, really. I think a lot about what it is even have to say. Most of the time, not much. But like you, I have to write. For me. Even when there are only 12 readers. Or even if there are none.

By: Kari

Kari — Wed, 29 Oct 2008 21:06:05 +0000

Thanks, Rachel and Karen. I appreciate you taking the time to say those things.

Rachel, if you are getting to know people in the Triad area, maybe we should have coffee. Is it okay if I email you?

By: Karen

Karen — Wed, 29 Oct 2008 02:36:09 +0000

Hi Kari,
I’m not a completely silent reader, but I definitely want to encourage you. From one lazy runner to another, I admire you honesty. I have read LOTS of blogs, but I keep coming back to yours. Your words are honest, and your style completely refreshing. I even send your blog to my sister and say, “See someone else out thinks like we do!.”

By: Rachel

Rachel — Wed, 29 Oct 2008 01:24:33 +0000

Silent reader alert! I started reading your blog not too long ago and its great. Since I moved to the triad area, I haven’t put myself out there and made a lot of ‘new’ friends so I always wonder – what do people think of me? And should I care what they think? I am weird because I like to read instead of do crafts or watch tv or play with other peoples’ children? (See…you are not alone!)

Being a mom or a crafty person or shopping lot doesn’t define who you are. Your opinions, thoughts and views on the world is another perspective that people (like me) like to hear because you are easily relatable. So please, keep blogging! Whether you’re up or down, funny or serious, its a great thing to say, this is what i’m thinking or feeling today.

Ok, so there’s my thoughts. Your blog is always great!