I’ll have my people give you a call

This week I have been thinking about how I hate having my time overly scheduled. We hang out with some friends to watch Survivor every week, and it kind of stresses me out to have to do something every Thursday night. Mike pointed out today that my problem is not so much with things being scheduled on Thursday nights as it is with his current schedule. Here’s a quick rundown of our week – small group in Greensboro on Monday nights, we both work late on Tuesday nights, we have Wednesday nights together to cook dinner (except when I am being taken out for a special treat), Thursday nights we have Survivor and Friday nights Mike works late. So my real problem is that we only get Wednesday night at home together.

However, this seems as good a time as any to announce – that will be changing soon, because Mike has turned in his notice and will be going back to school full-time in the fall. He has not yet earned a bachelor’s degree, and he has decided that he would like to be a math teacher, so I will be supporting him while he goes to school and works part-time. We are both very excited about this.

Anyway, back to the original topic. Mike and I are just not the spontaneous sort. When we get home from work, we tend to veg out immediately and not go out again (unless it’s a planned trip to the grocery store). Is this bad? I think it’s okay to be a homebody, but I am a homebody to the extreme. I love just sitting on the couch or on the deck and reading and listening to music and being close to Mike. I am afraid that my desires to stay at home are detrimental to my friendships, because I just don’t think about calling my girl friends to hang out (especially during the week). (And there is an element of, “I am sure they are all busy with other people,” but I doubt that’s surprising to my long-time readers.)

I am not sure what to do with any of this. I guess I am still processing. I am definitely the kind of person who needs time alone, but I want to be careful not to take that to extremes.

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  1. Roger

    I’m exactly like that. There is so much I’d like to do at home, most importantly just spend some quality time with my wife, that I wouldn’t care if I never got to visit my friends.

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  2. I am similarly inclined, but I have come to treasure regular time with my friends. They have even hooked me into the WB’s Angel, the punks. We don’t always watch it, though; this week, we just sat around and talked. It was really fun to have all these varying conversations … we sat in a loose oval and just transitioned from conversation to conversation, some involving everyone, most not.

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  3. Shelby

    Kari, I have determined that once you work a “full” time job, its kind of your right to stay at home and veg out as MUCH as you like, I know I come home and just crave peace and quiet. So you need it and deserve it!

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  4. trey

    shelby comes home and craves “her favorite” we ALL know this.. 😉
    we have a 24 viewing get together everyweek.. its the only show other than scrubs and fraiser that I really YEARN to watch.. and it is funny just the random conversations that stem from just being in the same room together… hehe..

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  5. I am the same – I want to stay at home and relax, catch up on readfing, spend quality time with my fiance, but at the same time I feel guilty for not meeting up with friends more often… I guess it’s just a matter of personality.

    Congratulations on your decision. I hope he will enjoy both his studies and his new career. It sounds like a very brave step. I’ll be praying for you both.

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  6. We tend to stay home most of the time too. Sarah would never leave the house if not for me I think though..she’s more a homebody than I am…I like hanging out with people.

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  7. i like watching some tv with my friends, that’s fun. like when we’ve gotten together to watch shows we ALL enjoy, its fun seeing how each person reacts to things on the show. but man, sometimes i like to come home and not do anything for a while. i’m always doing something at work for 9 hours, then i drive home, its easy for me to just shut off for half an hour or so.

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