Category Archives: Marriage

eighteen 2

Dear Atticus, You are eighteen months old! One of my students constantly asks how old you are and then says, “Why do you say it in months?” I don’t know. That’s just what you do. Around fifteen or sixteen months, I lost track of how many months I was supposed to say. And what does […]

feast of love. 8

It amused me, at my brother’s wedding, to be reminded of how different he and I are. Mike and I had our ceremony and readings set early, and one of the things I cared most about was having nice bulletins. At my brother’s wedding, they didn’t set the ceremony until the week of the wedding, […]

And your very flesh shall be a great poem. 3

From the preface to Leaves of Grass, found here. I did not expect the sheer physicality of being pregnant, how tired I get after a walk I used to be able to run. The pain in my back. The way he keeps poking me. The way I keep poking him back. (Which drives Mike crazy.) […]

Hold it high. 1

Lanterns by Amaury Henderick. Shared through a Creative Commons license. After I mentioned the Great Target Wedding Registry Incident of 2000, Mike came to me and said, “I have no idea what you are talking about.” Apparently he has blocked out the meltdown we had in the middle of Target because one of us wanted […]

Grits are good for you. 10

When I was in Michigan last week, the company provided us with these buttons that they called flair. You know, flair. It was not ironic flair, but many of the freshly graduated teachers were probably too young to know why it should be ironic anyway. (I spent a whole week feeling pretty old. In the […]

Where the ocean meets the greenery. 7

When you visit a place year after year, you don’t necessarily notice as it changes. The little things slip by until, after several years, you look around you and see how different the world looks. When you visit a place and then revisit ten years later, what becomes obvious is not just how much a […]

Many waters. 6

When love has got you in its throes Even the summer’s heat just freezes your soul And the sweetest song It just clanks along And the morning dew just says goodnight And leaves your heart undone It doesn’t do to try and understand Nothin’ that’s as good as love ever made a lot of sense […]

a graceful clearing. 4

Sometimes our life reminds me of a forest in which there is a graceful clearing and in that opening a house, an orchard and garden, comfortable shades, and flowers red and yellow in the sun, a pattern made in the light for the light to return to. The forest is mostly dark, its ways to […]

a profound mystery 19

When I was almost five, my parents celebrated their tenth anniversary. My dad gave my mom a ring with nine diamonds on it. I asked him why it wasn’t a ring with ten diamonds (I was very proud of myself for figuring out the flaw in his plan), and he told me that he had […]

In which you can read the actual text of my Best Girl speech as opposed to the speech I gave. 15

Do I need to write an obligatory wedding post? You can read what Brandi said to know how Thursday and Friday morning went. You can get Jeff’s perspective here. And Scott’s here. Andrea even talked about it a little bit here. There are pictures all over Facebook (and a few on Flickr). Do I need […]

Cut short. 3

Over the weekend, I was supposed to go to Asheville with some of my girlfriends from church. We had many fun activities planned, such as a hayride and some kind of humorous tour of Asheville. I was very excited about my weekend away. On Friday night, after we got there, we had an amazing dinner […]

Nine years ago today. 8

I don’t even think I knew what “best friend” meant nine years ago. It’s not about giggling and whispering into the night (though we do that, sometimes). It’s knowing that there’s someone around who knows your true self and who likes you because of and in spite of it. Not having to apologize for who […]

Fajitas and Mickey Rourke. 6

I make a lot of noise about how Valentine’s Day was invented by the card companies. And I really do believe that, to a certain extent. But I want to clarify: I am not against celebrating love. I just hate the pressure of Valentine’s Day, the way that we have come to think that it’s […]

Ten years come and gone so fast, I might as well be dreaming 13

Ten years ago today, Mike asked me to marry him. (I didn’t say yes for a few more days, and I debated about whether to wait and post something on the 24th or to go ahead and do it now. Obviously now won out.) We hadn’t actually been out on an official date at that […]

The University is a Paradise. 0

I finished Gaudy Night last night . . . my summer class has made reading somewhat difficult, but it will be over in a week and a half, so I expect my books read to skyrocket in July. A few weeks ago, I mentioned that one of our fellow concert-goers did not have what I […]

On clean mugs, house hunting, and Indiana Jones. 3

Almost every morning, I come downstairs and find my travel mug cleaned out and draining beside our sink. It is especially difficult to open, and Mike knows that, so he opens it almost every morning and cleans out yesterday’s coffee. It’s one of my favorite morning things, to turn the kitchen corner and see my […]

These are actual Trivial Pursuit questions. But there is no need to be afraid. 3

Mike would like for me to tell you that he beat me at Trivial Pursuit. Which is fine. I enjoy a good friendly competition. My hat is off to him. He should definitely be proud. After all, while I was getting questions about Confederate generals (which I answered correctly) and retired NHL commissioners (which I […]

A message I can feel. 1

I don’t know anything about Tullycraft, but one evening I was listening to the radio station that Mike DJed for over the summer, and I heard this beautiful haunting song. I made Mike call the station and find out what the song had been, and it turns out that it was “The Lonely Life of […]

My huckleberry friend. 6

“When I left Queen’s my future seemed to stretch out before me like a straight road. I thought I could see along it for many a milestone. Now there is a bend in it. I don’t know what lies around the bend, but I’m going to believe that the best does. It has a fascination […]

The rest of our New York trip. But I am too lazy to post pictures. 11

We realized a couple of things this weekend. 1. We should really travel together more. We always travel with friends or family, and, friends and family who read this, please don’t be offended by this, but it was really fun just to be with Mike in New York City. This is partly because we have […]