When I was almost five, my parents celebrated their tenth anniversary. My dad gave my mom a ring with nine diamonds on it. I asked him why it wasn’t a ring with ten diamonds (I was very proud of myself for figuring out the flaw in his plan), and he told me that he had [...]
Category Archives: Marriage
In which you can read the actual text of my Best Girl speech as opposed to the speech I gave. 15
Do I need to write an obligatory wedding post? You can read what Brandi said to know how Thursday and Friday morning went. You can get Jeff’s perspective here. And Scott’s here. Andrea even talked about it a little bit here. There are pictures all over Facebook (and a few on Flickr). Do I need [...]
Categories: Funny Stuff, Marriage
Cut short. 3
Over the weekend, I was supposed to go to Asheville with some of my girlfriends from church. We had many fun activities planned, such as a hayride and some kind of humorous tour of Asheville. I was very excited about my weekend away. On Friday night, after we got there, we had an amazing dinner [...]
Categories: Marriage
Nine years ago today. 8
I don’t even think I knew what “best friend” meant nine years ago. It’s not about giggling and whispering into the night (though we do that, sometimes). It’s knowing that there’s someone around who knows your true self and who likes you because of and in spite of it. Not having to [...]
Categories: Marriage
Fajitas and Mickey Rourke. 6
I make a lot of noise about how Valentine’s Day was invented by the card companies. And I really do believe that, to a certain extent. But I want to clarify: I am not against celebrating love. I just hate the pressure of Valentine’s Day, the way that we have come to [...]
Categories: Marriage
Ten years come and gone so fast, I might as well be dreaming 13
Ten years ago today, Mike asked me to marry him. (I didn’t say yes for a few more days, and I debated about whether to wait and post something on the 24th or to go ahead and do it now. Obviously now won out.)
We hadn’t actually been out on an official date at [...]
Categories: Marriage
The University is a Paradise. 0
I finished Gaudy Night last night . . . my summer class has made reading somewhat difficult, but it will be over in a week and a half, so I expect my books read to skyrocket in July.
A few weeks ago, I mentioned that one of our fellow concert-goers did not have what [...]
On clean mugs, house hunting, and Indiana Jones. 3
Almost every morning, I come downstairs and find my travel mug cleaned out and draining beside our sink. It is especially difficult to open, and Mike knows that, so he opens it almost every morning and cleans out yesterday’s coffee. It’s one of my favorite morning things, to turn the kitchen corner and [...]
These are actual Trivial Pursuit questions. But there is no need to be afraid. 3
Mike would like for me to tell you that he beat me at Trivial Pursuit. Which is fine. I enjoy a good friendly competition. My hat is off to him. He should definitely be proud. After all, while I was getting questions about Confederate generals (which I answered correctly) and [...]
Categories: Family, Funny Stuff, Marriage
A message I can feel. 1
I don’t know anything about Tullycraft, but one evening I was listening to the radio station that Mike DJed for over the summer, and I heard this beautiful haunting song. I made Mike call the station and find out what the song had been, and it turns out that it was “The Lonely Life [...]
Categories: God, Introspection, Marriage, Music
My huckleberry friend. 6
“When I left Queen’s my future seemed to stretch out before me like a straight road. I thought I could see along it for many a milestone. Now there is a bend in it. I don’t know what lies around the bend, but I’m going to believe that the best does. It has a fascination [...]
The rest of our New York trip. But I am too lazy to post pictures. 11
We realized a couple of things this weekend.
1. We should really travel together more. We always travel with friends or family, and, friends and family who read this, please don’t be offended by this, but it was really fun just to be with Mike in New York City. This is partly because we [...]
If you had one shot. 10
I am chronicling this as much for myself as for anyone, and that’s my excuse for it being so long.
I was afraid I would cry. That was my biggest fear about the whole evening, for weeks beforehand. Just like I knew I was going to cry when July 21st rolled around, I couldn’t [...]
Forever as your loving wife. 6
Sometimes I see women my age identify themselves as “the Mrs.†or “the wife†and it always gives me pause. While I work hard to keep our house clean and I take very seriously the vow that I made to make our home my primary ministry, I don’t identify myself primarily as a wife. [...]
Categories: Marriage
Give me banter any day of the week. 4
Over the weekend, Mike helped me navigate a stressful situation that involved theft, blood, and drama. I had warned him that I would need his assistance, but that turned out to be quite the understatement. He was a calming presence throughout the afternoon, handling some things so I could do others, giving me [...]
Categories: General, Introspection, Marriage
Wordplay. 6
I am notoriously bad at Scrabble. What I have figured out is that I am not great at games where there is a lot of visual information to take in, like Nerts or Scrabble. I can’t see all of those things at once. In Scrabble, that means that I create words that [...]
Categories: Funny Stuff, General, Marriage
Rambling thoughts. 5
Alisa and Carla have reported that they like the songs on the CD I made, except for one: The Dandy Warhols singing “We Used to Be Friends,” AKA the Veronica Mars theme song. I’ve started running again, and I’ve been using that playlist. I have to say that “We Used to Be Friends [...]
Categories: Books, Marriage, Music, Television
May having each other make more of them both. 7
I hardly ever flat-out recommend books. There are many reasons for this. One is that I don’t like to share things that are close to my heart, because if you don’t like them, it’s like you don’t like me. Another is that I’m more than a little afraid of being Book Ass-Person [...]
Why I’m still married. 6
I’ve been reading a book called Why I’m Still Married, which is full of essays women have written about marriage. In almost every one, I can find something that I relate to, something that echoes my own relationship. It reminds me of how universal our struggles are, that people have been there before, [...]
On settling. 6
I hadn’t gotten a compliment on my diamond ring in a while. Maybe I don’t clean it enough, or maybe I don’t walk in that, “My left elbow is constantly bent so you’ll notice my ring,” position that the newly engaged often sport. Maybe it’s because I’m much less conscious of it than [...]
Categories: Marriage