saving my life.

My dad, he was a good man, but this is one thing he told me when I was a little girl: You can run for president, but I won’t vote for you. His reasoning was two-fold: he wasn’t much for voting and he didn’t think a woman should be president.

I think he would have changed his mind if he had had more time. Not because I would have forced his hand by running for president, but because I saw him change his mind about a lot of things. That’s what made him a good man, not that he was always right, but that he would say he was sorry. That sometimes he thought he’d been wrong and he tried to fix it. I don’t believe the same things I did last year, or five years ago, or ten. I think this is as it should be, and though my dad would have disagreed with me about a lot of things, I learned it, in part, from him.

We had an election this week, did you know? My dad would have hated it, all the commercials and the politicking. I thought about him because both sides seem so entrenched in their own rightness. It makes me thankful that I grew up around people who taught me to hold being right loosely, to hold it gently with love and compassion and listening.

I believe in lifelong learning and in reevaluating. (I believe one day I will vote for a female president.) This week, what is saving my life is the ability to change my mind. What is saving your life this week?

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  1. If we could all hold our ‘rights’ loosely, the world would be such a happier, calmer place. Kudos to your dad for allowing his beliefs to change.

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  2. This is very nice. I wonder in what ways your own child will learn how to grow from watching the ways that you change your mind. It’s a real challenge as a parent!

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  3. It’s so important to have the humility and courage to change our minds. I’m so glad your father had that strength.

    Sometimes I think I should put up a disclaimer: “I don’t speak for my employer, my church, or my country. In fact, a year from now, I may not even agree with what I’m writing now.”

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  4. _steve

    If the first female President is Sarah Palin, I’m moving to the damn moon.

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