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I especially liked the point about sharing funny stories about the person. I would add meaningful stories, too – if the person did something kind or helped you or encouraged you, that’s a great story to share.
I don’t necessarily agree that it was terrible for someone to say they couldn’t understand what I was going through. I liked that more than someone saying nothing, and appreciated what they were saying, since I don’t always know what to say, either. The bad thing is that, of course, I think my grief is the worst, the most important, so when someone would say that kind of thing, it could sort of . . . feed that. I guess it’s sort of the same thing she was saying about being inaccessible, though it’s a little different take on it.
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I love receiving advice like this because I’m one of the ones that never knows what to say…Thank you for sharing the article.
Yep, that’s right, and it reminds where I’ve been wrong.
I especially liked the point about sharing funny stories about the person. I would add meaningful stories, too – if the person did something kind or helped you or encouraged you, that’s a great story to share.
I don’t necessarily agree that it was terrible for someone to say they couldn’t understand what I was going through. I liked that more than someone saying nothing, and appreciated what they were saying, since I don’t always know what to say, either. The bad thing is that, of course, I think my grief is the worst, the most important, so when someone would say that kind of thing, it could sort of . . . feed that. I guess it’s sort of the same thing she was saying about being inaccessible, though it’s a little different take on it.