Comments on: I should spend more time laughing at myself, I should spend more time laughing.

By: Rebecca

Rebecca — Tue, 16 Aug 2005 17:06:17 +0000

I’m with Brandy in that I could definitely have written this myself.

I, too, beat myself up mentally until I am literally physically sore, all because I think I said something that sounded stupid or did something that looked stupid. Yes, I know that the person I said or did it to probably forgot it immediately afterward, but that doesn’t seem to matter to me.

And as far as defining yourself by your GPA, I can totally relate. I think this past year has been the hardest for me because, being out of school, I can no longer define myself by my GPA. I moved to College Station right after I graduated, so my current friends don’t know anything about who I once was. So I can’t fall back on being the girl with the 4.0 GPA, or the girl with the highest grades who always aced the chemistry tests. Without that as my identity, I feel like I have nothing good to offer. I’m not even doing that great spiritually, so I can’t be the super-christian girl I once prided myself for being, the one who always had a quiet time and always did the Jesus-like thing. So I feel even stupider than usual, which just is not fun.

And, as for games, I’m super competitive if I’m with my husband or family with whom I feel comfortable. But if I’m with a group of people, I usually try to get out of playing, using the excuse that I “just want to watch”. And if I can’t do that, I’m definitely not focused on winning; all I can focus on is not looking stupid. Especially if it involves acting out scenes or something like that. Oh, gosh, I hate those!!!

So yeah… I really relate

By: Jason the Actual School Friend

Jason the Actual School Friend — Mon, 15 Aug 2005 15:28:19 +0000

I never do stupid things. I have no idea what any of you are talking about.

By: Geof F. Morris

Geof F. Morris — Sat, 13 Aug 2005 03:36:04 +0000

I think so. I used to take myself seriously. I still do some. But … yeah.

By: Roger

Roger — Sat, 13 Aug 2005 01:32:25 +0000

I definitely think this is something learnable. Like other lessons, though, you might not like the learning process.

By: Kari

Kari — Fri, 12 Aug 2005 19:42:42 +0000

Hi, Brandy! It’s nice to know other people can relate.

By: Brandy

Brandy — Fri, 12 Aug 2005 19:27:25 +0000

I’ve been reading your posts for a while, just quietly thinking to myself, “Wow, we have a lot in common,” but I had to comment on this one just because I could have easily written it myself. I’d just have to change Mike to Matt (my husband’s name).

By: Kari

Kari — Fri, 12 Aug 2005 17:46:06 +0000

I haven’t played Nerts since that night, and I don’t plan to play it again. But, good for you.

By: Chris Hubbs

Chris Hubbs — Fri, 12 Aug 2005 17:17:35 +0000

Oh yeah, you can learn it. And my learn it I mean start doing it. Just let it go. I know it’s not that easy, but there’s not a lot to learn except doing it.

And, BTW, I’m lousy at Nerts… but I keep playing.

By: _steve

_steve — Fri, 12 Aug 2005 16:54:44 +0000

You can learn it. I did.

By: Kari

Kari — Fri, 12 Aug 2005 16:32:39 +0000

You are someone I want to emulate in this, Shelby, because I have noticed how you choose to laugh when embarassing things happen instead of letting them get to you, and it has always impressed me a lot. In fact, I had you in mind when I wrote that last part . . . “I want to be like Shelby” is really what I was thinking.