Reading and Queen Bees

I haven’t done an entry on reading in a while. This is mostly because I haven’t been reading as much as usual lately, what with all the traveling and now my car being in the shop (not to mention my *ahem* current obsession taking up a lot of my reading time). (Side note: Mike never reads my blog, so I thought I was safe referring to my new interest. Of course not. He happened to read it last night. Of all the times for him to read it. I am so busted. hehe.)

Geof asked me how I liked the Keillor that he and Trey recommended. The honest truth is that I haven’t had time to read it. I returned it yesterday. Luckily, I work at a library, so it’ll be here when I do have time. I hate that I had to take it back, but I promise it didn’t mean I didn’t appreciate the suggestion. Three of the books I placed on hold came in at the same time, and I’ve been trying to read those since some of them have long waiting lists. I read Queen Bees and Wannabees last week, I’m about 2/3 done with My Name is Asher Lev, and next up is The Rule of Four. (Side note: My dad likes to listen to books on tape, so I got him The Rule of Four on tape for Father’s Day, so we could “read” it together.)

So, how did I like Queen Bees and Wannabees? It was good, very insightful, but I did feel like something was lacking. She characterized girls in certain ways, but there was never really a mention of the goody-two-shoes youth group girl. She is probably a hybrid of some of the other characterizations, but . . . I guess I felt like religion was completely left out of the picture, and it’s such a huge part of life here in the South that it seemed like a glaring omission to me. I am not completely sure how to phrase this, but I think that youth group and church (and, of course, God) were a huge factor in helping me make good decisions during my teen years. Those influences gave me a better perspective on the issues I was facing, which is crucial to girls that age who have a very hard time keeping things in perspective. Both this book and Reviving Ophelia had little to no discussion of the positive aspects of religion. It was interesting to me to see how different my take on things would have been. Overall, I would still recommend it to anyone who has a daughter or who works with girls that age. I have even found it helpful in conversations with friends – one of my friends broke up with her boyfriend, and she was telling me all about it over coffee, and I kept thinking, “The book said not to say X or Y when there’s been a breakup . . .” It has definitely challenged me to be more thoughtful in some of my responses to my friends, and I could see how it would be very helpful when negotiating a relationship with a teenage girl.

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9 Comments

  1. Roger

    I could use anything that would help me be more thoughtful. I’m kind of straight forward and blunt. But then again, I am a guy, not Jeremy the Perfect Boyfriend.

    Posted 6/23/2004 at | Permalink
  2. chalee

    if there’s not a good book on the teenage girl experience from a Christian viewpoint, then clearly you must take it upon yourself to write one.

    Posted 6/23/2004 at | Permalink
  3. I still like you even if you didn’t get the time to read our book. ;)

    [Y'know, in case you thought you'd disappointed me.]

    Posted 6/23/2004 at | Permalink
  4. But will you buy my book on the Christian teenage girl experience, Charles? That’s the real question I’m pondering.

    Posted 6/23/2004 at | Permalink
  5. chalee

    in another 15-20 years, if i have a Christian teenage girl to deal with…absolutely!

    or if the winston dating scene continues to stink it up, i may need to see an advance copy to help me scam on some HS seniors… ;)

    Posted 6/23/2004 at | Permalink
  6. As long as they’re already 18! ;)

    Posted 6/23/2004 at | Permalink
  7. you didnt read the book!!!… what a jip!!.. its awesome.. READ IT!!..

    Posted 6/23/2004 at | Permalink
  8. Bill

    I read Queen Bees and Wannabes recently and also noticed the lack of religion but I still think the book should be read by everyone.

    While religion can help someone make better choices they still usually fit into the character types. Also the relationship someone has with religion is often times reflective of their relationship with their parnts.

    One great thing about the book is that it can help you deal with the fallout of making the right choice.

    Posted 11/9/2004 at | Permalink
  9. dominique

    I was in Christian youth groups, etc. while a teen. I feel like the catergories the book stated where still true although the Christian influence seem to make each not quite so extreme. I feel no religion can ever really completely change the human nature. I also work with young girls and found this book enlightening with the way I should handle them and also helped me come to terms with some of my own experiences.

    Posted 11/16/2004 at | Permalink

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